Lesson Four: A Time to Transition


ecclesiastes 3 2c

~ The Importance of change ~

Whenever you face a time of transition, God is with you. – Margaret Feinberg


This lesson started out with a quiz to determine how I respond to change.  To be honest, the results surprised me quite a bit.  I expected to find that I hate change and avoid it at all costs.  My choices, however, indicated that I either liked change or would thrive in it.  I’ve always craved stability and been sort of a home-body, but maybe that’s because I haven’t had the opportunity to be anything else before.  Others made that choice for me.

Whether you’re a fan of change or one who tries to resist it at all costs, everyone inevitably faces seasons of transition in life.  How will you respond? – Margaret Feinberg

When my marriage ended, I had choices to make.  Things were going to change whether I wanted them to or not.  I could choose to become bitter and depressed and let my circumstances define me.  I could choose to not do anything but sit and fret and wallow in self-pity.  Or I could choose to move forward and embrace the chance to do all the things I had dreamed of, but set aside for my marriage and family.  Yes, that would involve even more change, but it would be positive change to improve my life and my attitude.

Sometimes we find ourselves in a season of planting – a time when we stay in one place, root deeper in our relationships and community, and embrace the stability that naturally comes.  But other times we find ourselves in a season of uprooting – a time when change is taking place all around, even within us. – Margaret Feinberg

Right now I am experiencing a little of both.  It is hard to describe.  This past year has brought tremendous changes in relationships, in my home, and in myself.  But at the same time, there has been stability in my faith, church, and job.  Those roots and that stability have been instrumental in my being able to adjust to and cope with the other changes I have faced.  I am rooting myself in that stability even as I begin to plan even more changes for myself in the next few years.  It will also continue to help me cope with any other unexpected changes, necessary endings, or new beginnings that arise.  And I know there will be some.


Over this past year I have definitely sensed God’s blessing and provision as I am putting down new roots in this new stage of life.  I know that He is with me during this time of transition because He has always provided for my son and I, and I know He will continue to take care of us.

~ Cue God to act ~

For example, I was drafting this blog post in a notebook while sitting in the waiting area of my local Firestone and had just finished writing the above sentence when this happened.  Talk about impeccable timing.

My God will provide.

I don’t have to worry.

The lesson goes on to talk about the Israelites and their exodus from Egypt.

In order to flourish again, they needed to uproot themselves from everything that was familiar.  Throughout the long and difficult journey God reminded the people that He was with them time and time again. – Margaret Feinberg

Every time I start to worry about bills or finances, God shows up to let me know He is there.

He is trustworthy.

He is faithful.

Over the last year I realized that I had planted myself in my ex-husband and his family.  I was looking to him and them for my security and worth instead of looking to God.  If He allowed me to be uprooted from that, then it is because He has bigger plans for me that I could not or would not accomplish where I was comfortable.  Yes, the transition was painful and heart-wrenching.  But I learned that God will always be with me and that He has a purpose for what I have experienced.  He does not want my suffering to be in vain.  And it won’t be if I allow Him to use it.


Now I am trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up.  I have a good, steady job that pays my bills, but it isn’t what I want to do for the rest of my life.  My son graduates from high school in two years, so I am content to stay where I am for the time-being.  But I am excited about the opportunity to figure out what my dream for my life actually is, and pursue it.  I am blessed to still be young enough to make a total career change without having to worry about supporting my family.

I have been holding on to the truths that God is both with me and that He goes before me.  I need to remind myself of those facts often.  He is with me through everything I have faced or will face.  But He also goes before me, so nothing gets to me that hasn’t gone through Him first.  He is writing my story, and He knows how it is going to end.

I still face several potential transitions in the areas of relationships, work, and finances.  Regarding relationships, I am working on building intentional new friendships.  After my brief dip in the dating pool this summer, I have put dating on hold until I really figure out who I am and who I want to be.  My time dating this summer made me realize that I need to know myself better before I can have the kind of relationship I really want.


But that is something that I will eventually have to transition into as well.  And it’s something I’ve never really done before, so that is going to be it’s own learning experience and adventure.  Work-wise, I mentioned a possible career change in a few years.  That also ties into financial transitions and figuring out what to do about not only paying for college for my child, but also finances in general when child support ends after he graduates high school.  I will have no choice but to make changes in my career at that point.

No matter what, I have to put my complete trust in God during any transitions in all areas of my life.  He is in the midst of each one of them.  He goes before me and with me every step of the way.

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